Tuesday, November 17, 2009

Human Motivation and the 3 Motivation Personalities

Posted by Evi Yulianti 9:05 AM, under | 6 comments


Human motivation is a response that our body has to some form of either internal or external stimulation.

In simple terms, it means that our body is responding to stimulation. An example is that we are motivated to eat something because we are hungry. We are directing a behavior to a particular goal. Humans need to be motivated to do just about anything in life. That is why it is so Important to set goals.

Sure, we may not need to set a goal to eat, sleep or drink. Those are internal stimulations. But sometimes in life we find that we need to motivate ourselves to do other important functions in life.

Some of these include: losing weight, exercising, quitting smoking, cleaning the house, doing homework or finding a job. Those are just to mention a few.

The bottom line is, we need to set goals to do some of these things. Without goals, we really can't begin to get motivated. As humans, we need to have the reason to do something. That is how our brain works.

There are three basic types of personalities that determine human motivation.

1. The need for achievement is the drive to excel at things and strive to succeed. This type is in it for the competition only.

2. The need for power is the desire to make people behave a certain way with the power of human motivation. This type of person is in it for the power and could care less about the competition.

3. The need for affiliation is the strong needs for close interpersonal relationships with others. This type of person is in it for friends. They will cooperate just to have the social aspect.

These are all types of personalities that are part of human motivation. It is what drives us to think the way we think and desire the things that we desire.

Depending on which human motivation type you are will determine what motivates you. There can also be a combination of two or three to make up someone's personality.

Everyone is different in that different things motivate each and every one of us. In order to get motivated, one needs to first set goals out in front of them to meet. They need to be goals that are within reach.

Then after the goals have been set down, it is time to get a plan on what it will take to meet your goals. Write it down and prioritize the things that need to be done in order to achieve this motivation.

The final stage to human motivation is to make a commitment to keep focused on the goals. Remember, motivation is what drives us all. We need to have it to achieve anything.

source : http://www.articlecircle.com/psychology/human-motivation-and-the-3-motivation-personalities.html

Monday, November 16, 2009

Why Balancing Your Polarity Can Make Life Better

Posted by Evi Yulianti 4:11 PM, under | 2 comments

Driven by cultural imperatives and inner promptings, we drive ourselves into a frenzy of action day after day.

The urgency of what needs to be done and the limited time we have to do it excites us to become excessive in our activity.

Eventually, this force, which is kinetic, runs out, and we become tired, drained, and irritable.

What used to be states of high-productivity now slip into carelessness and error. And like a machine that has been pushed to an extreme, parts start to collapse.

Our health may collapse, or our relationships, or our finances. We experience stress and anxiety.

Yet given our obsession with finishing and completing and our myths about never quitting, we may continue to ruin ourselves.

All this distressing collapse can be easily resolved by simply learning to develop the other polarity.

And what is the other polarity? It is deep relaxation and introspection.

Deep relaxation is not spending more time watching television and introspection is not more time web-surfing.

Deep relaxation is stretching, walking in nature, spending time with loved ones, and doing soulful tasks. It is a goal-less activity. It's purpose is to experience being over doing. It is a time for meditation on the meaning and direction of your life.

Introspection is writing in your journal, watching the moon rise above the clouds, and contemplating the lessons of life that you've been going through. It's finding books and strategies about wholeness.

When you allow a season for letting go, then the season of productivity, when it arrives again will be bountiful.

We are not machines, nor robots, but subjective beings capable of deep experiences, and while catering to external circumstances may help us to survive, listening to our feelings and subtle perceptions may help us to thrive.

Of course, the other end of the polarity is equally as debilitating, where you only spend time inwardly and avoid encountering the world outside yourself. Then you start to thrive internally, but your survival is always uncomfortable. You start to attract a crisis to shift you out of your depression.

The first step to living a balanced life is acknowledging its value. Your security and power comes from being balanced.

And the second step is to find on what end of the polarity you're on and how you can gently swing to incorporate more of the other end as well. When action and inaction are balanced every part of your life will begin to work with ease

source : http://www.articlecircle.com/psychology/why-balancing-your-polarity-can-make-life-better.html

Sunday, November 15, 2009

8 Ways to Instantly Calm Yourself

Posted by Evi Yulianti 9:26 AM, under | 1 comment

We all have felt anxiety before. No matter how confident and relaxed you are, you know what it’s like to be nervous before an interview, trembling before a speech, or cold and clammy over the pending results of your graded quiz.

The point of this article is to provide you with eight different ways to release this tension. There are more powerful ways in which you can relax (as we will provide in our products) however this article provides eight ways you can use anywhere. Hardly anyone will actually notice that you are using them. You will not have to sit in a meditation position on the floor, or chant mantras to relax yourself… so no worries.

Also, notice the title of this article is not “…Calm Yourself Down”. We don’t calm down. We calm up.

Calming yourself involves not detaching yourself from your environment, but integrating yourself with it while you mentally move inward to obtain steadiness. You should not feel tired or detached. You should simply become “in the zone”: Alert, focused and relaxed.

Chair Press-Up

This one’s great for if you are waiting to give a speech or if you are nervous in a group setting. Simply put your feet flat on the floor. Put your hands on the arms of your chair. If your chair doesn’t have arms, place them on the edges of the seat. Brace yourself. Now, take a deep breath, and push up with your arms and feet as you exhale. Lock your arms – let your torso hang from your locked arms for a moment while you finish exhaling… long and deep. Go limp, but remain locked in the up position. Now sit back down. You feel like a noodle, and everything is cool.

Breathing

Breathing is absolutely crucial to calming yourself. I recommend you do some in-depth research on Eastern styles of breathing, and how to breathe powerfully with your diaphragm. Breathe in strongly and slowly through your nose as you expand your diaphragm. Your stomach should rise, not your chest. Now, blow it out strongly and steadily through your mouth. Repeat this a few times. You can feel the tension leaving your body.

Spread Legs

This one may not seem like much, but it has serious subconscious value. When most people are relaxed (particularly us guys) we have a tendency to spread our legs slightly and take up more space. By consciously spreading your legs while sitting (or standing) you will take up more space, which is what we generally do when we are comfortable in a setting. Perform the action, and the feeling of comfort will follow.

Slouch Slightly

Yes, slouching is bad for your posture. Slouching for years will curve your spine. Slouching for a few minutes will not. This is another habit most people demonstrate when they are relaxed and comfortable: They slouch. So, next time you feel antsy about a situation, allow yourself to lean back your head and slouch slightly in your chair. Once again, the feeling will follow the action.

Power Hands

Powerful people are often calm, relaxed and comfortable in their actions. When they sit around a table, they often do one of two things with their hands: Steepling, or the hands-behind-the-head. To steeple, put your elbows on the table, and steeple your hands in front of your face – like the bad guy does in the movie when he’s going “M’yesss…. Muwahaha…. I can see it all coming together so perfectly…” Think of yourself as the bad guy when you steeple your hands. You know you are going to win. You steeple your hands as you turn over your master plan inside your head. Everything is falling into place so perfectly. Muwhaha. For more of a “corporate” power / relaxation effect, lean back in your chair and put your hands behind your head, lacing your fingers together. This is how bosses sit when they are talking to people who work for them. It has profound effects in making you feel more powerful and relaxed.

Anchoring

This is an incredible psychological tool we will cover in more depth in our products. Your subconscious mind anchors certain actions / stimuli with certain feelings and responses. Psychological anchors and triggers are used everywhere. It is the reason behind many strong emotional connections. If you had a song played at your wedding, hearing the song played at a later date may make you cry. The emotional event was your wedding, and you heard a song during it (the anchor). Thus, the song became tied to the feelings you felt during your wedding. Upon hearing the song again (the trigger) you feel the same feelings again.

Another example is if you became very ill once from a certain drink, you may become sick simply from smelling the drink in the future. The emotional event was becoming very ill, and the anchor was the drink. Therefore, smelling the drink in the future could make you sick very quickly. Anchors are used everywhere, in positive and negative emotions. To use them to calm yourself, develop a specific anchor every time you are calm. My anchor is to place my hand palm-down on my thigh. Every time I am relaxed, I do this, to reinforce the anchor. Then when I need to be calm, I simply fire the trigger (palm on the thigh) and my mind recreates the emotion tied to that anchor – which is relaxation. Pick an anchor you don’t use that much, such as touching your ear, or putting your hand on your knee. Do it whenever you are relaxed, and when you need to become relaxed, doing it will help to put you in that mental state.

Kill Internal Dialogue

There are many ways to do this, but here’s one good technique: If you are talking yourself into a worrisome state, or worrying while talking to someone during a conversation, do this immediately. Defocus your eyes, and open your peripheral vision. Look at two areas ahead of you, to each side. Picture your conscious thoughts in those areas. Now, draw your gaze up from both points at 45 degree angles until they meet in the high-center of your vision. Next bring the gaze straight down, so it is directly in front of you (a person’s face if you are talking to them). Now, picture your gaze coming straight back to your own head, as you return your consciousness to your own mind. Not only does it help increase focus, but the simple effort required to perform the exercise will often stop any distracting internal dialogue you are having at the time.

Centering

If you feel a general anxiety of your whole body, such as being self-conscious of your hands, feet, or body position, this exercise can work wonders. Close your eyes. Take a few deep, long breaths: in through your nose and out through your mouth. Place your tongue on your front pallet, directly above the backside of your upper teeth- this is effective in stimulating cross-lobe integration (and relaxation) in the brain. Picture a point far in front of you. Project your thoughts there in your mind. Continue breathing, and keep your thoughts there, until you are fully relaxed and have forgotten about clammy hands, sweaty feet, or mismatched socks. Once you are relaxed, slowly bring the point in front of you closer as you return to a fully aware state.


article source : http://www.articlecircle.com/psychology/8-ways-to-instantly-calm-yourself.html

Friday, November 13, 2009

'Different' works in your career

Posted by Evi Yulianti 12:09 PM, under | 1 comment

Maybe we want a promotion or recognition for our efforts, and what we are getting is other people taking credit for our work.

But, instead of taking action to change our frustrating circumstances, we wait for the situation to improve on its own. And, while we are waiting, we keep repeating actions that are getting us nowhere.

So How Do You Begin A Different Cycle? Follow These Steps Below:
1. Let Go Of Your Resistance
What you resist persists. You may not want to do something different, but goals in your career cannot be achieved without change. (And, going with the flow.) You have to stop saying no, so you can start saying yes.
Begin by recognizing what resistance is costing you. Are you tired at the end of each day? Do you think about your work constantly? Do you frequently feel that you could be doing more? Imagine if you could let your resistance go. Think about how you could better spend all of that extra time and energy.

2. Believe That "Different" Will Work
Your beliefs are powerful. They set the tone and direction for your career. If you say you want one thing, but believe another, your conflict will keep you from moving forward. Sometimes we think we are helping ourselves. If we expect less, then we will not be disappointed. And, hopefully what we want will magically appear. When you expect less, you get less. Expect more and you will get more. Believing is vital. If you do not believe that your career wishes will come true, then who will?

3. Try An Alternative Approach
If you want something different, you have to do something different. For example, if you interact with difficult co-workers in a certain way, try an alterative approach. Be nice to them and maybe they will be nice to you. If you want a promotion, are you the only one who knows it? Have a discussion with your boss so you are both on the same page. If you want a new position, is your resume and 30-second pitch ready to go? You can turn these things around by tackling your problem in a new way.

4. Be Nice To Yourself
What hurts you most in your career is not what's happening around you, but how you react to it. Your career runs in cycles; sometimes you are up, and sometimes you are down. How you internalize and process what's happening around you can either move you forward or hold you back.
How can you be nicer to yourself when your career is not running as perfectly as you'd like? You make a choice. You can tell yourself that everything will be ok, or you can let your negativity win. You can reward yourself for the milestones you are reaching, or get disappointed because the process is taking longer than you think it should. You can focus on what you haven't done up to this point (because you were not ready), or what you will do starting today. The choice is yours to make everyday.

5. Get Support
Progress requires different perspectives. Reach out and ask for help at those times in your career when it's needed. Asking for help takes courage. The strength to ask is within you. Let people in. Let them help you. Leave your skepticism behind. (It's getting in your way.) Go after what you want with the right people beside you.

source : http://www.articlesbase.com/self-improvement-articles/different-works-in-your-career-1447909.html